I’m Afraid – Emotional Intelligence…

All living beings feel other living beings through relationship or Social Intelligence.  This starts in the brain and follows neural pathways and related systems to manifest outwardly.  Think of bees stinging repeatedly, they release  information to other bees through their endocrine system and so do you.  Before you know it, you have a big problem.  It works the same way with horses and dogs and yes people too. We are all wired to read each other.   It’s just that sometimes humans don’t recognize what’s happening as quickly as other living beings. This is because we rely so much on talking.

If you have spent any time with me and horses I’ll tell you, just be honest because there is no where to hide.  The reason for this is because in the hiding your blood pressure rises, heart rate increases, your breathing changes, all outward signs that something is wrong.    You can use this information to monitor what is happening to you thereby becoming smarter about what you are feeling (emotional intelligence.) When you add your new awareness to a mix of horses, rabbits or other people this becomes Social Intelligence.

Learning to be emotionally intelligent is something that is easily learned In the Company of Horses and Social Intelligence is clearly defined and learned in the herd.

In the Company of Horses


The herd in this photo has done all the work necessary to share food.  Emotionally  knowing what they want; Socially doing what it takes to share.  It does not always go this way.  Sometimes a horse will posture and push other horses away.  Sometimes a horse will physically bully  other horses and take the hay.  Sometimes a horse will stand to the side and watch the others eat but never do the work it takes to be able to share with the others.  It’s the honesty of asking for (through body language) what they want that has these three horses eating together.

Some self examination could reveal how you get what you want!


10 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Lisa
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 13:14:06

    So true!


  2. Tracy Smith
    Apr 15, 2013 @ 15:33:26

    So true and relevant!


  3. Melinda Blackwell
    Apr 16, 2013 @ 22:19:37

    Excellent. This is the focus of my work at EQuus Insight. Thanks for sharing.


  4. Irene
    Apr 24, 2013 @ 12:02:41

    muy interesante a la vez que cierto.


  5. inthecompanyofhorses1234
    Aug 27, 2013 @ 11:48:59

    Thank you Irene, it is interesting work we get to do In the Company of Horses!


  6. carmen
    Oct 15, 2013 @ 20:28:44

    my paraphrasing of a powerful point in your entry – emotionally knowing what you want and socially doing what it takes to get there…I will be using this in my work with young physicians in the brutal training process of residency, all the while neding to learn how to be a “team”


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